One of the most moving segments and I think the the point where I felt the author's meaning most, was the obituary of 42 year old Brian Doyle from Oregon. The author's reaction to this obit was haunting. "What Brian died of, the article does not say. Nor does it say who he was,. It doesn't say who or how he loved. It doesnt report the color of his eyes. It doesn't show the shape of his ambition." Very strong words. We live our lives to have them summarized in an obituary that can list our accomplishments and aspirations, but the only way to know someone, to know why they wanted to live, to know what made them love the people they loved, is to connect with them.